Last year, during a road trip through Tasmania, exhaustion from hiking left me in dire need of a massage. Desperately searching for relief, my friend and I stumbled upon a cheap Asian massage parlor after an exhaustive Google search. Little did I know, this experience would teach me some invaluable lessons.

The Unsettling Encounter: Walking into the massage parlour, I was greeted by a male masseur. Instantly, discomfort set in. I've never been fond of male massages; the strokes felt amateurish, and communication was hindered by a language barrier. My unease grew as I questioned the professionalism and legitimacy of the situation. My mind raced with questions and concerns. Was this masseur properly trained? What style of massage was he using? Is this establishment even legitimate? 

Speaking Up: Despite my initial hesitation, I realised I was paying for a service I wasn't receiving, and my safety felt compromised. Summoning courage, I expressed my discomfort and requested the massage to stop. A consent conversation was imperative, and I made the call. This moment taught me the importance of advocating for myself and setting boundaries, even in uncomfortable situations.

Know Your Worth: As I voiced my concerns, I reminded myself of my worth. I had paid for a legitimate massage experience, and I deserved nothing less. This experience reinforced the notion that one should never settle for subpar treatment, especially when it comes to personal well-being and self-care. Just as sex should be mutually pleasurable.

Be Open to Solutions: To my surprise the masseur stopped and exited immediately, the manager handled my complaint with professionalism and empathy. He swiftly arranged for another therapist, acknowledging the lapse in service quality. Did I feel guilty? Fuck no. Opting for a female masseur, I remained open to finding a solution rather than allowing frustration to dictate my actions which could have ended up in a Renee toddler tanty for not getting the massage I wanted. This flexibility ultimately led to a rejuvenating massage experience.

Lessons Learned: Reflecting on this experience, several valuable lessons emerged. Firstly, the importance of speaking up when feeling uncomfortable cannot be overstated. Secondly, recognising and asserting one's worth is essential, particularly in situations where expectations are not met. Lastly, remaining open to solutions fosters constructive outcomes and ensures a positive resolution. Just like when it comes to sexual encounters, be open to having an open dialogue about what you like and what you don't. Don't settle for shitty or uncomfortable sex like I did in my younger years.

Conclusion: While my road trip detour led to an unexpected and uncomfortable encounter, it ultimately imparted invaluable lessons. As I continue my journey, I carry with me newfound courage, self-assurance, and a commitment to advocating for my well-being. This experience serves as a reminder that even amidst discomfort, growth and empowerment can emerge.

Sending you lots of love on your healing path. 

Your friend, 

Renee.